Life truly begins at the end of your comfort zone. I remember being extremely comfortable, afraid to take risk. I found that place to be comfortable as much as it was uncomfortable. In life the beautiful thing is we have is choices. We can choose to stay where we are or we can chose to change things for the better. If your are reading this blog post that means you still have the opportunity to change the circumstances of your life. I was just like you about a year ago sitting there wondering when will I ever take action. Maybe you have taken action but you are not good at staying consistent. Trust me your not alone. I would find myself coming out of my comfort zone and slipping right back into my comfy cozy place of comfort. But honestly I believe that some things are just necessary. We all go through periods in life where we feel stuck and can’t seem to break cycles. The important thing is recognizing it and working on ourselves to make it better. If we don’t recognize it and allow the patterns to continue, we will look up years later and try to figure out what went wrong.
For me it wasn’t what other people thought of me, it was what I thought of myself. I found myself with so much self doubt. I had so much self doubt that I couldn’t imagine anyone wanting to take my advice. In my short years of living I had experienced a lot and I had a lot to share with people but I was simply operating in fear. It’s wasn’t until I read the book “No Matter what”, by Lisa Nichols that I started to feel a shift in my life. Reading this book truly changed my life, I remember during my reading bursting completely into tears. This book truly empowered me and made me realize that I have to achieve my dreams ‘No Matter What’. This book not only made me realize that my dreams and goals were possible, but it helped me envision myself in a new way. In the book Lisa Nichols talks about the trials and tribulations that come with life. She spoke about her issue with weight and feeling unworthy, to her financial troubles and troubles in her relationships. I felt like Lisa the self doubter, the one who felt she has so much to give but just couldn’t give it. The ideal of opening my mouth and sharing my life struggles with people seemed to be extremely difficult
In my reading I discovered a lot about myself. Self discovery is one of the greatest gifts that you can give yourself. But what happens most times is that we are not willing to see our own truth. While I was reading this book I realize that the only thing stopping me from achieving my dreams and goals is me. In life we always try to point the finger and blame other people and other life circumstances, when in reality anything is possible if we believe. Believing is the first step to achieving anything if there’s no belief it will never happen. The truth is, prior to reading this book I didn’t believe in myself or any of my abilities. My Family and close friends would tell me positive things about myself but I never believe a single word that they told me. It was something about the fact that I came from a urban city, a single-parent household, no family member of mine lived the life I dreamed, no college education, so how could this be possible. I knew from a young age I really wanted to be something special in life and be impactful. I just didn’t feel worthy and I thought that maybe my dreams are too big. I even had close friends and family tell me, “oh that would never happen”. But no matter what I did I couldn’t lose the vision I had for life. I knew that if there was just one person living their dreams so could I. I believe that everything started with me. The first was my mindset I had to believe it was possible and then do the work that is necessary.
Life is a life long self discovery, when you discover yourself life just feels different. Self discovery I found to be more obtainable when I engulfed myself in books and podcast and surrounded myself with life minded people, that helped my mind stay focused. When you listen to other people stories it really empowers you. A part of self discovery is clearing out the people in your life that don’t serve you any good. The people that you have in your life never know the impact that they have on your life. Sometimes we love people to default and we love people so hard that we can never let them go when in reality the weight that they have on our life is way more damaging than the change of not having them around.
After reading the the book and clearing people out of my life I began my “take action season”. Meaning no more talking about what I want to do but actually taking action toward it. When you want something bad enough you have to sacrifice a few things and sleep is definitely one of them. I had to be willing to give up some things. I developed a “No Matter What” Mindset and nothing could stop me. Everyday I got closer than I was the previous day. I’m saying this all to say. Make your dreams a reality, don’t settle for average. We all are good at something find that thing your good at and work towards it no matter how hard or far fetch it might appear to be . My good friend les brown says,
If you want a thing bad enough, to go out and fight for it, to work day and night for it, to give up your time, your peace and sleep for it. If all that you dream of and scheme is about it and life seems useless and worthless without it, if you gladly sweat for it and fret for it and plan for it and lose all your terror of the opposition for it. If you simply go after that thing that you want with all your capacity, strength and sagacity, faith hope and confidence and stem pertinacity… if neither cold, poverty, famine, nor gout, sickness no pain, of body and brain, can keep you away from the thing that you… if dogged and grim you beseech and beset, with the help of god YOU WILL GET It! ~Les Brown
Join me on my “No matter what” journey as I go after my dreams and help many people go after theirs.
Your virtual Friend,